“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
I have always been worried to show “too much” of myself. Either way, regarding the physical features or thoughtful thoughts about personal growth. Everyone sets personal and different boundaries. Today, I want to talk about self-confidence. I’ve already touch this topic in the past, but I want to share a bit of my personal story and how I learned that personal growth passed through self-confidence, how the value of confidence has changed the way I value myself, the others and our place in the world.
The biggest thing, I do believe, prevent them for doing what they want to do is the lack of confidence. Fear is the reflection of an absence of comfort and security. For most of us, self-confidence is something we lack as growing up and it’s difficult to overcome. It is something that prevents you to really find your place and be truly yourself. Looking for something that would replace it won’t be enough. It’s a necessity to escape from a cluttered life. It’s something we must work on everyday. As humans we’ll always have fears and doubts, failures, but a bit of self-confidence will help with the struggle. So if you’re in need of self-development, here are 5 steps to boost your self-confidence.
#1 Fashiun. Let’s stay true to the core of this space. Fashion is the first thing coming in mind when I want to feel confident. If I dress nicely, I do feel better. It may sounds superficial, but that’s true. When having an off-day, cladding in my best garments, a blow out and boom, it’s instantly. At least, it improves.
#2 Body language. Approaching someone new is easily intimidating and you can read his body language and tone. When I met new people, either in the fashion industry or on the daily life, I lacked so much confidence that I considered that everyone was above me – and it allowed others to treat me as such. It can happen again daily and it requires self work. It’s all about energy and naturally, not one of us is worthless. Who would want to work with you if you allow yourself to be diminished?
#3 Accept what you can’t change. For sure, you can compare yourself with others, but what would it bring? There will always be someone better than you in different facets of your life. In the same sense, you’re probably outpacing someone in another field.
Sabotaging yourself isn’t the solution. If you’re not satisfied, time to take action. Get active and change the way you want it to be. Once you accept the things you can’t change, you’ll be happier and then more confident.
#4 Positive thinking. I do believe in karma. Changing your way of thinking as I said above takes action. It takes baby steps. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. You have to learn to be kind to yourself and about what you’ve accomplished so far. Listen to your self talk and focus on the things you can do, on what you’re good at, and clear your mind of any limits you set up.
#5 Increase your competences. Feeling more competent isn’t usually something you rad humans develop overnight. How do you do then? Studying and practicing. A small sip at a time and work, training, preparation are everything. Up to a certain point, you can learn anything you put your mind to. A big part is upon talent, open mind, opportunities, but it’s also based on your inner confidence. Grabbing opportunities signifie you know you can do it. No trying means not getting there, so try.
Surrounding yourself with peeps that supports you, with positive mind is also key. I find it easier when I tend to look around me, and see that some of my closest friends support me and then I’m more self-confident.
All is said –
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”