Growing up means business. Growing up means, also, growing apart from the friends you had in high school. One of the question I usually hear regards maintaining strong friendships with my girlfriends. Once you get graduated, married, have a job, settle, travel around the world, have babies, expanding your career… It’s going to be more difficult to spare some times for the important friends in your life, even the one whom you just met. Laury is one of those person you met, and you feel totally inspired with. Actually, she’s not a friend I got for years, and whom I met when I moved or whatsoever (I’ll introduced you to this one), but she’s the one who made it with me through the past months, and will remain very dear, if not near. On a recent trip to Milan, Laury and I decided to toast to our recent friendship on the terrazze of Il Duomo, celebrating the only way we know, dancing, twirling, shooting and so on and on.
We came up with 7 tips we think make your friendship last.
1. Make a plan
Since Laury and I don’t live in the same country anymore, we have to map out and plan when we’re going to see each others, sometimes weeks or months in advance. Even if you’re living next to your old-time friends, planning a date with your girlfriends take a sweat. No matter what, we try to stick to the plan and not cancel. This helps to set a routine. And if we have to travel the world to meet – as we did last week – we keep this on. We do not pressure each other. We just take this on and on. Obviously, when the date comes around – especially with my two closest friends – I’m beyond excited.
2. Set reminders
Friendships hold together due to honesty, communication and mostly caring. Indeed, if your girlfriend had a big appointment, or is sharing with you some important news, you should look forward to it. Set a reminder in your calendar for the birthdays, anniversaries and dates. Sorting this out make me able to not forget anything and special moments in my friends’ life.
I am very protective with my friends, and I do have their backs, always. Honestly, I treat my friends as family, because for me, your friends are the family you choose, and I do feel it’s important to be able to be there for one another.
Any relationships holds onto communication, and it’s the same for your friendships. Sometimes, we have different things going on in our life, but communication helps one another, and it’s so important to be able to count onto someone with whom you can share anything. There’s a reason why friends are growing up apart and don’t stay close, and I do think it’s all about a lack of communication.
5. Keep up the social
When you’re living thousands of kilometers apart, and you don’t see each others on a daily schedule, use social media at your advantage. Leave supporting comments, tag them and engage on their social media channel, to tie up the communication more until you have the chance to be together.
6. Don’t over think
Don’t sweat over miscommunications, or late texts you didn’t have time to answer or the time she didn’t get back to you. Even for the birthdays, the celebrations or the events she / you might have missed. After college, my friends and I have grown apart, because we picked different career path. Tiny things don’t make me over think our relationships. I’ve lived for half a year across the world, and even tho it was hard, I did manage to keep everything together. Just keep in mind, people’s life get very busy, and if you get upset for tiny things, the best thing to do is to be honest, talk about it and move on.
So even tho you’re growing apart from you old and closest friend, you would be able to catch with her and hold up onto this relationship.
How do you maintain your friendship? Let me know all about your tips!